Good Gifts To Give: Five Guidelines To Giving Gifts Your Family and Friends Will Love

Like you, I get many holiday gifts every year I don’t use — from clothes that don’t fit to food I don’t eat to soaps and bath accessories I don’t need. These products fill our landfills and clutter our closets. Worse yet, they are often quickly forgotten and don’t make an impact on our lives.

Here, then, are five strategies you can use to give meaningful gifts your recipients will love — and actually use!

  1. Avoid giving “stuff” if at all possible.

    All of us get an inordinate amount of “stuff” every year. Most of it clutters up our houses, and therefore, our life. I’m a big proponent of reducing the amount of stuff in my life, so I don’t like these gifts. Instead of giving stuff, why not give an experience they will remember for a long time to come?

    Here’s an easy question. Simply ask the gift recipient where they shop, eat, or would like to have a spa day, nail treatment, etc. Don’t let them get away with vague answers like “I buy most things at my local grocery store.” Ask them, “Where is your favorite place to shop?” Then give them a gift card fom that place.

    My mom gives me Amazon gift cards, which are nice — but they do contribute to the stuff accumulation in my life. I wouldn’t mind gift cards to my chiropractor, for instance, or my massage therapist. Heck, even paying a month of my gym membership would be awesome. The point is, these are all experiences I enjoy and that make me feel better. Why not contribute to someone’s well-being instead of contributing to their closet?

  2. Give gifts that will save the recipient money.

    I admit to being a rather quirky gift-giver. Last year for the holidays, I gave everyone in my family about $75 each worth of compact fluorescent bulbs. With each gift, I explained why I had given it. “Installed properly, these will save you about $5-10/month on your electric bill,” I said. Then I helped them figure out where to install them in their house for maximum savings.

    If we all switched to compact fluorescent bulbs, we’d save 15-20% monthly on our electric bills, and our overall electricity demand in the U.S. would drop by 18%! [source]

    I’m definitely a crusader for environmentally friendly products, and I’ve been known to give away many CFL bulbs. But I can’t think of any better gift to give than one that takes less than 5 minutes to install and saves the recipient money, month after month. Who couldn’t use an extra $10-20 a month?

    Another gift in the same vein is a programmable thermostat (though you might want to consider how handy your recipient is, or offer free installation with it). Finally, a “smart” power strip that shuts off all devices when the primary one is turned off can help avoid “vampire” energy-sucking appliances by automatically turning off a DVD player, video game console, etc. when you turn your TV off.

  3. Consider “add-on” gifts that the recipient would have to buy anyway.

    Find out what printer they have and buy cartridges for it. Find out what kind of razor they use and buy extra blades for it. If they have a video game console with only a single controller, consider a second or third controller. Buy them some blank DVDs or CDs so they can burn backups or music. If they print photos at home, get them some nice photo paper. Find out what exact bathroom and household supplies they have and buy them more of what they already own.

    These are great gifts because you practically guarantee they will get used. Instead of buying them something new (and therefore less likely to be used), you’re helping them use something they already own without outlaying additional cash.

  4. If they have a subscription they like, continue it for them.

    Subscriptions and other “small luxuries” are often the first to go in a downturn. If your recipient loves Netflix, for instance, help them out by extending their subscription for a few months. Other subscriptions to consider extending include magazines, gym memberships, newsletters, and newspapers.

    The catch is that they actually have to be using that membership for this gift to be worthwhile. There’s a simple solution to this — ask them! We all love to talk about whether a certain service helps us or not. You won’t look foolish for asking “Hey, I noticed you had a couple Netflix DVDs on the table. Do you like their service?” Rather, you’ll appear interested in their life — and thoughtful when you later give the gift!

  5. Buy gift cards for an experience they will remember — not for stuff they won’t use.

    One of my fondest memories was when a client we had gone above and beyond for sent my company a Ruth’s Chris gift card. Ruth’s Chris is a fantastic, high-end steakhouse. I wouldn’t typically eat there on my own, but the gift card made for a truly enjoyable experience. I can’t remember most of the gift cards I’ve gotten, but this one I will never forget.

    What’s a local, really nice restaurant near your recipient? Where can they go and have an amazing experience? Try to pick a place you’ve been to yourself. If you don’t know the area, use Yelp or Citysearch to help you find the cream of the crop in restaurants or spas.

What’s the point? We can all do a lot better at identifying what gifts to give recipients. Often, my friends and relatives complain that I’m hard to buy for. But by using these simple tactics, you can figure out what even the pickiest gift recipient would find useful.

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Posted on Tuesday, November 18th, 2008

  • http://www.StartBreakingFree.com StartBreakingFree.com

    You’re absolutely right about this, no more STUFF!! I like the idea of giving people an experience. Thanks Erica.

  • http://www.cathlawson.com/blog Cath Lawson

    Hi Erica – what brilliant gift ideas. This is really helpful – I’m always pushed for Christmas shopping time, so I get most stuff online.

    I really love the idea of the long lasting lightbulbs – I bet nobody had received those before.

    The idea of subscriptions is great too. And the restaurant vouchers are a great idea. Thank you. I suck at coming up with gift ideas.

  • http://hunternuttall.com Hunter Nuttall

    Ruth’s Chris is my dad’s favorite place. Hopefully he’ll never get sick of it, because it makes a great gift!

  • Zend

    Oh, Erica!
    If everyone took your suggestions here to heart, the holidays would be so dull and boring and I wouldn’t look forward to them so.
    I, for one, don’t want “practical” stuff, for the most part. On the contrary, I want things I *wouldn’t* buy for myself. That’s part of the fun of receiving gifts!
    Gift cards are nice, but they’re boring to unwrap. Electronic gift cards are even worse. A cash gift is worst of all because people aren’t going to spend it on some luxury for themselves, they’re going to spend it on bills or something. (Did they really think the economic stimulus package wouldn’t go to bills? Ha!)
    So yeah, I want STUFF. BIG STUFF that takes about an hour to open because it has a TON of wrapping paper on it. And no, I won’t return or regift it if I don’t like it because that’s obnoxious and just plain rude.
    (HAPPY HOLIDAYS!)
    Love,

    ~~~Zend

  • Jackie

    I think your ideas are fantastic, but I’m a practial person, so I would. I’m giving my sister and best friend’s families “Game Night” baskets filled with board games so that they can spend quality time together. I’m giving some people cleaning supplies that I make myself along with the directions on how to make them when they run out…very green and thrifty.

    I’m trying to think of a gift to honor my late mother-in-law….

  • http://www.prevential.com Derek Halpern

    Thank you Erica for the tips.

    The best gifts are gifts that save money – I can’t think of anything better.

  • http://cgervasi.blogspot.com/ http://cgervasi.blogspot.com/

    I agree about avoiding gifts. It’s better, IMHO, if you can take it step further and eliminate holiday gifts altogether and replace them with fun activities. It’s easier to remember activities and events. It’s hard for most people to recall any gifts from the past winter holiday.

    We live in an overdeveloped world with more than enough stuff. We need more time to relax and do fun stuff.

  • http://www.ecochicshop.multiply.com Prime Sarmiento

    I always loved practical gifts – things that I really need *(such as biodegradable soaps, hypoallergenic personal care products ) and/or reduce my expenses (one month’s gym dues, paid yoga sessions, a dinner in a nice cafe). But most peiople would rather give things that are just cute but useless. hayyyy.

    another thing, people should just give gifts to people they care about and not just because they need to give something this xmas. i know that sounds like i’m such a scrooge, but i don’t believe in useless gift giving

  • Kate Hollifield

    Another gift for the person who has “everything” is to make a donation in their name to their favorite charity. Done this for my mother on occassion who doesn’t like “STUFF”.