Comments on: Two months later… http://www.erica.biz/2006/two-months-later/ Erica Douglass, "temporarily retired" after selling a successful business at age 26, writes thought-provoking blog entries challenging you to change your life and daring you to become more successful. Tue, 06 Jan 2009 01:00:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Paige Stroman http://www.erica.biz/2006/two-months-later/comment-page-1/#comment-26866 Paige Stroman Sat, 04 Feb 2006 08:06:05 +0000 http://www.slashchick.com/?p=138#comment-26866 Well, I was wondering how your IBI experience went in December? Before you went, you wanted to know what others' experiences were and now I'm going in March and am curious as well...As far as the personal stuff - we all have it and deep down we all feel at some point that maybe we don't deserve to be loved. Just face your fears and open yourself up...advice I'm trying to listen to as well! Well, I was wondering how your IBI experience went in December? Before you went, you wanted to know what others’ experiences were and now I’m going in March and am curious as well…As far as the personal stuff - we all have it and deep down we all feel at some point that maybe we don’t deserve to be loved. Just face your fears and open yourself up…advice I’m trying to listen to as well!

]]> By: Gem http://www.erica.biz/2006/two-months-later/comment-page-1/#comment-26564 Gem Wed, 25 Jan 2006 17:45:20 +0000 http://www.slashchick.com/?p=138#comment-26564 "I don’t mean unlovable as a friend. I have lots of friends who love me, and I know my family loves me. But I feel that there’s something that makes me unable to have a long-term relationship with anyone. I have some idea of what it is — that I’m a real perfectionist and I don’t think anyone, including me, lives up to my standards." I have a similar problem. I hold myself to a far higher standard than I do everyone else. People think I am really great at things but at the same time I am annoyed with myself for not being as good as feel I should be. If I could see myself as other people do I'd be happier. “I don’t mean unlovable as a friend. I have lots of friends who love me, and I know my family loves me. But I feel that there’s something that makes me unable to have a long-term relationship with anyone. I have some idea of what it is — that I’m a real perfectionist and I don’t think anyone, including me, lives up to my standards.”

I have a similar problem. I hold myself to a far higher standard than I do everyone else. People think I am really great at things but at the same time I am annoyed with myself for not being as good as feel I should be. If I could see myself as other people do I’d be happier.

]]> By: James http://www.erica.biz/2006/two-months-later/comment-page-1/#comment-26549 James Wed, 25 Jan 2006 13:53:15 +0000 http://www.slashchick.com/?p=138#comment-26549 Hello, I just made it here thought your +5 post in slashdot about the training guy. You were mostly talking about household, houskeeping, kids and house/wife roles. It caught my attention and I came here to further reading. After I went extensibily thought your website and your company website, I must say I find you to be a really remarkable woman! I even saw pics of you in flickr (everything is there if one knows how to find it) I will only say I wish I lived in your city! I think you have gained a reader today, your blog has made it directly to my top blogs list. Enought about presentation and enought licking (I shall recall here Mr. Wolf famous quote on Pulp Fiction) About this particular post, just one thing: You are trying to be less perfectionist in order to be a better person, but is not that the same as to say that you want to be better, or more perfect? really caught you! Trying not to be a perfectionist is a futile exercise, for which this road leads to the very same start point. I wont give you any advice on the matter, since I cant see myself doing so to such a remarkable woman. Read ya later! :- ) Hello,

I just made it here thought your +5 post in slashdot about the training guy. You were mostly talking about household, houskeeping, kids and house/wife roles. It caught my attention and I came here to further reading.

After I went extensibily thought your website and your company website, I must say I find you to be a really remarkable woman! I even saw pics of you in flickr (everything is there if one knows how to find it) I will only say I wish I lived in your city!

I think you have gained a reader today, your blog has made it directly to my top blogs list.

Enought about presentation and enought licking (I shall recall here Mr. Wolf famous quote on Pulp Fiction)

About this particular post, just one thing:

You are trying to be less perfectionist in order to be a better person, but is not that the same as to say that you want to be better, or more perfect? really caught you!

Trying not to be a perfectionist is a futile exercise, for which this road leads to the very same start point.

I wont give you any advice on the matter, since I cant see myself doing so to such a remarkable woman.

Read ya later! :- )

]]> By: Johnny Storm http://www.erica.biz/2006/two-months-later/comment-page-1/#comment-26493 Johnny Storm Tue, 24 Jan 2006 20:18:13 +0000 http://www.slashchick.com/?p=138#comment-26493 I've been looking at your post for the past 4 days, and I'm still not sure what to say to you about your query. About the only advice I figured out that I go give and make sense (as much as advice can be from a complete stranger) is to be patience. Trying to rush something that can't be rushed only makes it worse. It seems you really need to find an off switch in your life, as you seem to go through the cycle of working your ass off, and then crashing and burning for a month or two.  As in all things in life, maintaining balance is key. I do hope you eventually find what you're looking for. (Or, to be more appropriate, whom you're looking for.) Johnny  p.s. Did you ever find that third person to help with Simpli? I’ve been looking at your post for the past 4 days, and I’m still not sure what to say to you about your query. About the only advice I figured out that I go give and make sense (as much as advice can be from a complete stranger) is to be patience. Trying to rush something that can’t be rushed only makes it worse. It seems you really need to find an off switch in your life, as you seem to go through the cycle of working your ass off, and then crashing and burning for a month or two. 
As in all things in life, maintaining balance is key. I do hope you eventually find what you’re looking for. (Or, to be more appropriate, whom you’re looking for.)
Johnny 
p.s. Did you ever find that third person to help with Simpli?

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]]> By: kesuki http://www.erica.biz/2006/two-months-later/comment-page-1/#comment-26320 kesuki Sun, 22 Jan 2006 00:35:20 +0000 http://www.slashchick.com/?p=138#comment-26320 well, ganbatte at being happy, and remember that ultimately happiness is just a state of mind and a way of thinking. being able to focus and work hard with simpli is a great acheivment that shows your abilities, so we know you can set your mind to a task and acheive results. so maybe it's time you took being happy with a guy seriously, none of this fantasy prince charming riding in on a white horse to save you from the dragon BS. Instead finding a way to spend time with another human being and being able to interact with them, and allow them every opporunity to feel good being with you while you enjoy every opportunity for feeling good they give to you. i almost make that sound simple, don't I? Alas sometimes the simplest tasks are the most frustratingly hard, because they aren't complicated or confusing, but we Want them to be. we Need them to be harder than they really are. just to drive us crazy. well, ganbatte at being happy, and remember that ultimately happiness is just a state of mind and a way of thinking. being able to focus and work hard with simpli is a great acheivment that shows your abilities, so we know you can set your mind to a task and acheive results. so maybe it’s time you took being happy with a guy seriously, none of this fantasy prince charming riding in on a white horse to save you from the dragon BS. Instead finding a way to spend time with another human being and being able to interact with them, and allow them every opporunity to feel good being with you while you enjoy every opportunity for feeling good they give to you.

i almost make that sound simple, don’t I? Alas sometimes the simplest tasks are the most frustratingly hard, because they aren’t complicated or confusing, but we Want them to be. we Need them to be harder than they really are. just to drive us crazy.

]]> By: Randy http://www.erica.biz/2006/two-months-later/comment-page-1/#comment-26309 Randy Sat, 21 Jan 2006 17:45:38 +0000 http://www.slashchick.com/?p=138#comment-26309 Impressive entry. Hits home with me, and I suspect other "geek" types. My little adventure is getting out of the whole computer business altogether. I think the exact and controlling nature of the computer business encourages that sort of mindset. I'll let you know how it goes. Oh, and three cheers for meeting someone while travelling. I'm scheduling some business travel for this year and while I'm certainly not planning on meeting anyone, which is a recipe for disappointment, I am adding extra days here and there so that I'll have the opportunity. Atlanta during the Atlanta Jazz festival for one, when I could have gone to other cities for the business meeting I'm attending. I am curious how well you get along with your employee(s) with your controlling nature. Do you just pay them especially well so they can't complain, or are you gifted with managerial skills? Impressive entry. Hits home with me, and I suspect other “geek” types. My little adventure is getting out of the whole computer business altogether. I think the exact and controlling nature of the computer business encourages that sort of mindset. I’ll let you know how it goes.

Oh, and three cheers for meeting someone while travelling. I’m scheduling some business travel for this year and while I’m certainly not planning on meeting anyone, which is a recipe for disappointment, I am adding extra days here and there so that I’ll have the opportunity. Atlanta during the Atlanta Jazz festival for one, when I could have gone to other cities for the business meeting I’m attending.

I am curious how well you get along with your employee(s) with your controlling nature. Do you just pay them especially well so they can’t complain, or are you gifted with managerial skills?

]]> By: G http://www.erica.biz/2006/two-months-later/comment-page-1/#comment-26257 G Sat, 21 Jan 2006 11:23:13 +0000 http://www.slashchick.com/?p=138#comment-26257 Don't forget that some people won't find strain caused by your perfectionism--your true friends. Please don't forget that you have many people who will listen to your thoughts and concerns with an open mind. Don't hesitate to ask any of them. It will help you more than you could ever imagine. Don’t forget that some people won’t find strain caused by your perfectionism–your true friends.

Please don’t forget that you have many people who will listen to your thoughts and concerns with an open mind.

Don’t hesitate to ask any of them. It will help you more than you could ever imagine.

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