Slashchick wants the thrill of the chase and the ‘newness’ of a relationship, you know, that new car smell and all that. Mind you the new car smell is due to chemicals that mess with your health (as new studies show). But anyways. She also likes an adventurous guy. Nothing odd about that.

FK is right and wrong; in the long term he’s right, but what he’s not seeing is that for now, SlashChick is young and has some adventuring to do and some experience in life to achieve.

What I expect to see next is a bunch of guys trying to tell her she needs to settle down. This, no doubt, coming from the kind of guys who themselves want that ‘new car smell’ experience with women and who are out partying and doing wild stuff. Kesuki, no offense intended, sounds like the perfect lead-in intro for the crowd of men who would post after him – the kind who want to be wild but don’t like wild women demeaning their own sense of ‘manliness.’ I’m not saying Kesuki’s like that, but the next bunch probably will echo him and turn up the moral heat. I’ve worked with guys like that all my life.

As a guy I’ve wanted to settle down even as a teenager, but alas it took me until my 30s to find Ms (now Mrs) Right. I know other guys like me who are now in their 40s and who are having a VERY active and acute midlife crisis of wanting to be adventurous after having avoided it their entire lives. Very bad things inevitably ensue, starting with marital infidelity and ending with very bad injuries trying to do physical activities their bodies are no longer able to handle.

I address my adventurous needs with charity work… it also doesn’t hurt that my wife and I have a concierge virtual assistant service that does deliveries… last week’s trip to Reno was … interesting…!

Sounds like the wrong kind of school, then I don’t think popping out kids ASAP was very high up the list of priorities for the girls I knew, anyway.

Kesuki: “cloned”, I take it? I was wondering where the colon came in, trying to see a pun about slash and colon…

and i understand where your perspective of ‘normal’ girls wanting to settle down and raise babies etc comes from, but really that isn’t all that normal. it’s more like a default answer someone who’s had all the dreams of a better life crushed out of them might expect from life.

in other words you’re not hearing what they really want, but what they expect they’ll be able to get from life…

I still haven’t met someone where I’d be more disappointed to lose him than I would be disappointed if I didn’t chase after “the other guy.” This would seem to indicate that I haven’t met “the right person” yet. I definitely know that it’s going to be a hard match finding someone right for me, though. I’m starting to realize that it’s probably just better to enjoy being single and meeting cool guys than to try to find “the right person.” I have definitely been enjoying myself recently.

“Ask your parents about what a relationship is like after, say, 3-5 years.”

I asked my dad one time why he married my mom. He said, “I dunno. Seemed like the right thing to do at the time.” They complain about each other all the time. Doesn’t exactly seem like a match made in heaven to me.

“Seems like that highschool/college girls dream to me.”

I’ve never met a high school or college girl who said that. Most of them wanted to settle down and get married ASAP so they could start popping out kids. That’s just never really appealed to me, y’know?

I’ve been in my relationship coming up on 10 years (married for 5). Regardless of how exciting both people are, you will fall into somewhat of a routine. You can’t have excitment everyday. Sure, the beginning is fun… sure, after a while you may want the feeling of ‘the chase,’ again. But the lose of the other is too great a lose to go after those feelings again.

Your summary of ‘the perfect guy’ seems a bit off kilter for me. Seems like that highschool/college girls dream to me. I know I’m sounding like a complete ass, which I don’t intend, but don’t know how else to say it. Ask your parents about what a relationship is like after, say, 3-5 years. Then 10 years, etc…